Millennial PSA: Standing Up to Small Injustices

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“There are two kinds of evil people in this world: People who do evil things, and people who see evil things being done and don’t try to stop it.”

Thank you to Janis Ian for inspiring my #millennial musings of the day:

My millennial friends, if you see someone being treated unfairly – stand the eff up. Ask how you can lend support [lending an ear over coffee, doing some research or coming up with an action plan]. Don’t sit idly by as you watch someone take advantage of a person who does not deserve to be abused.

I hate to get all Taylor Swift on you, but this PSA is particularly geared to my lady readers. There are a lot of people out there [both men and women] who see young women as meek and incapable …  so they end up being straight-up mean to millennial ladies. Let’s stand together, folks. Let’s compete less with each other, and let’s focus on becoming the best versions of ourselves – while helping our peers do the same. [Unless, said peer did something super egregious. In that case, wish the best for that hot mess troll, go no contact and move on with your life. Ain’t nobody got time for pettiness.]

Millennials, Entitlement and Weddings, Oh My!

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Entitled. Narcissistic. Selfish.

If you’re a millennial, there’s no doubt you’ve heard these words to describe your generation so freely. We really do have a bad rap among older folks. In a 2014 survey [pdf] of American adults, 71% described millennials as selfish, while 65% said they’re an entitled group of people.

I’ve always disagreed with these labels – for myriad reasons. 1. How can the media, our relatives, our older colleagues be so chill about labeling a group of 75M+ VERY DIVERSE people? 2. As far as I’ve seen, millennials are an incredibly hard working, side-hustling, education-getting bunch. The Gen Yers I know put in their time – working 10-12 hours per day on the reg. They don’t arrive on the job only to sit down, do nothing and expect everything to be handed to them. Yeah, there are exceptions. Some people are hot mess trolls and whatnot, but for the most part, I’m impressed with how hard my peers work to make their communities and the world at large a better place. That doesn’t sound selfish or entitled to me.

Whew! That said—I kinda, sorta think I finally found out where the whole entitlement argument comes from.

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The Definitive Answer: Who Pays for the First Date?

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My fellow millennials – listen up. I don’t care if you’re from NYC, Cincinnati or middle-of-nowhere Arkansas. I don’t care if you’re a lady, dude or don’t subscribe to gender norms. I don’t care if you’re black, white, Asian or anything in between. I don’t care if you’re heterosexual or LGBTQ+.

If you are, however, single, and on some sort of online dating platform, I need you to take 10 minutes from playing Pokemon Go and read this. It’s very important.

If you stumble across a human being you would like to mate with, and you ask them out on a date and suggest a specific activity/location, I have some news for you: You offer to pay the entire bill at the end of said date.

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How to Make Friends As An Adult

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Once again, TV has deceived us. Once you reach adulthood, friendship is nothing like what you see on “Friends,” “How I Met Your Mother,” or even “Orange is the New Black” [Taystee + Poussey + Black Cindy + Suzanne 4eva].

You don’t just sit around and sip coffee/beer with your pals all day at the local coffee house/bar/prison.

I learned this pretty quickly after I graduated from college and moved to Ohio. I was super bummed because I was having trouble forming solid relationships outside of my family. I would go to work, go to my grandma’s house to crush some delicious food, and then head home. Every. Single. Day. And what I saw on Facebook exacerbated it all: I would feel even worse about my friendless life when I saw photos of my East Coast pals going to concerts and enjoying happy hours together.

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Trendy Fitness Classes: Worth it or Nah?

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Bikram Yoga. SoulCycle. Pure Barre. CrossFit. Orangetheory.

Chances are – if you’ve met someone who does any of those workout programs, you damn well know about it. (Ya know, kinda like that “old” joke: “How can you tell if someone’s a vegan? Oh, don’t worry, they’ll tell you.”)

When did we all get so obsessed with trendy fitness classes and wearing Lululemon like it’s Marc Jacobs’ new collection fresh off the runway?

What is so appealing about these expensive classes? What is it about them that draws millennials in?

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